Beyond the status

By Adunke Olatunji

LIFE is in dimensions. While some believe it plays out as ordained by divine instructions closely associated with destiny, a lot of people hold the view that we are the sculptor of our designed image which simply means what we do is what we get back. In other way round, our output is a direct outcome of our inputs.

The image we get in a mirror is whom we are that represent us where we should or ought to be. Walt Disney, an American writer said, “I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter”.

We all came to this world for a purpose. This purpose defines our existence in many forms as regards the way we live to achieve the cardinal purpose. Our world is specially designed to continually and consistently work on it for the better in order to get the best out of her. Various creatures and entities have come and gone as more are yet to come at different dispensations, postulating their theory and ideals to improve on how we live and what make life better.

Interestingly, as man live to grow daily, little did he know his appearance is ephemeral and all that he laboured for shall one day be separated from him when the time is up. The time in question is not specific, it comes anytime. Just like the motto of the voluntary organization, Boy’s Scout: Be Prepared. The funny aspect of life is whether prepared or not ready, death comes anytime.

Single or married is not an antidote to answering the celestial call. Therefore, there is consciousness of who we become when the demise of a partner or spouse happens. Though, the occurrence of this deals a terrible blow on the living partner. The impact is debilitating but live must be lived. Efforts to create one’s joy comes from within. Happiness brings about good living. Life is more than what happens to an individuals. We live daily on experience of yesterday to get to new level or destination today as we focus on tomorrow. Widowhood must not be a stumbling block or stopper to achieving goals. When you do not allow any circumstance to weigh you down, the sky is the limit. The death of a partner may lead to new discoveries of higher levels. Achievements come by hard work. The status “widowed” must not be stigma. Life is all encompassing. The new song you embrace would bring comfort, the new life you explore will earn better experience and create new opportunities. The new connection (husband or wife) will open new escapades.

Gone are the days when excuses on destiny prevents progress and innovations. The world is defined by contents of the hearts as exemplified by experiments in deep thoughts. A proverb says, as you lay your bed so you lie on it. You are a complete human being. Never allow widowhood to deny you the new heights.

To every level of accomplishment there is a starting point. After death comes a new life that herald new heights.

I conclude with a quote, “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving” — Albert Einstein.

Albert Einstein was a German-born theoretical physicist who developed the theory of relativity, one of the two pillars of modern physics. His work is also known for its influence on the philosophy of science.

Adunke Olatunji is the President, Tabitha New Life Foundation

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1 thought on “Beyond the status

  1. Boyede Olasanmi says:

    …… there is always a starting point …. well said . Coachy


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