Tame it before it escalates By Adunke Olatunji

I know we have one problem or the other and they differ in weight and we strive to deal with them as best as we could. My situation is not an isolated one. You might be going through traumatic experience which makes you believe all is lost.  Whatever you become is what you make yourself. Life will always throw punches at you but it’s left to you to learn either to conquer it or at least dodge the blow. Bury it before it consume you.

REACH OUT FOR HELP

We are used to keeping our problems to ourselves because we don’t want people to mock us, we don’t want to be discussed, we want privacy but don’t forget that problem shared is half solved.

You can share your problem and still remain anonymous. You can talk to people who knows nothing about you but who will give candid opinion and offer suggestions.  They have nothing to gain or lose, they are complete strangers.

You keep your problem under wraps it will remain there but reach out for help and get solution as in my case.

APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE MORE AND THINK LESS ABOUT WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE

I did not appreciate God’s love for me.  He gave me people who care about me but I don’t seem to appreciate their love. There are people out there who has no one to turn to. I also did not consider the consequences of my actions, I overlooked the bigger picture. I allowed my situation get the better of me forgetting that some people will give anything to be in my shoes. I refuse to accept the fact that life is a 2 way street – you win some battles you lose some.

Stop thinking of what you are not having instead think of what you can have. There’s blessing behind that problem, it only takes careful reflection to identify it.

STOP WALLOWING IN SELF PITY

Self-pity is self-destruction, banish any negative thoughts immediately and look forward to something better.  When family and friends were advising me then, I ignored them always telling myself they can’t understand how I feel.  They’re not in my shoes.  I was always thinking of my status in the past.  I forgot those parts of that past that were rough and God rescued me. I was busy pitying myself and rotting away. Wasting precious time.

Aim for the top and you’ll get there even if it means scaling some hurdles on your way.

Focus more on your target which is success and less on your failure rather learn to overcome any threat to your happiness, build more on your strength and manage your weaknesses as best as you can.

Don’t ever believe you’re too weak to do it, *you won’t realize how strong you are until you make a run for it. Always try, don’t resign to fate, don’t give up*

LISTEN TO THE WORDS OF GOD AND REFLECT!

“Which of the Blessings of your Lord will you deny?”

God also mentioned in the Bible that He will NOT change the condition of certain people UNLESS they change what is in themselves.

I should have considered these statements and think logically instead of brooding.

God is always talking to us but we don’t listen. The moment you listen to the voice of God you get divine direction.

DON’T BE AN ARCHITECT OF YOUR OWN DOOM

Don’t compound your problem by unnecessary brooding, if you have to think,  think logically.

Take the bull by the horn, step up to the occasion, search for solutions,  open your heart to opportunities and grab them as they come.  When you’re too preoccupied by excessive thinking you’ll miss every opportunity coming your way,  even when it’s staring right at you, you won’t see it. You just need to position yourself to take advantages of the whole situation and come out better.

My Advice:

 When you have days where you cannot see through the clouds of confusion or your heart weighs heavy with dark emotions, look inwards and focus on letting your inner sun illuminate the darkness.

Olatunji is President, Tabitha New Life Foundation (07081657473)